This is not a typical LinkedIn post, heck I don't even know if it belongs on this platform because it's not about the actual work I do but it's related so, here we go.
Something about workplace friendships never clicked for me.
Don't get me wrong, I've met some wonderful, intelligent and kind people all through my career since 2006 across India, the US, Europe and the Middle East, but somehow who I defined as "friends" remained outside of work. How I defined my friendships always remained personal and I felt a barrier (self-imposed) in deepening my workplace connections because it felt unprofessional and blurry. What if they don’t respect my boundaries? How will that affect my work? What happens if we disagree and don’t get along? Can work-wives and work-husbands break up and co-exist in the same organisation?
But as I continued to progress in my career and especially over the past 8 years, my work became deeply personal. We spend so much of our day at work and if you love your job like I do, you're probably thinking about it even when you aren't working, so how can it not be personal?!
Especially since I started working at
The Quad, it meant I was working with people who were already my friends and people who I cared about. And as we built the company, everyone we attracted to our tribe came from a place of deep connection to our ethos. People who simply loved what we stood for and felt a personal connection with us. This is probably why it's also hard when they leave - but that's a story for another day.
Around 2 years ago, as we were working on understanding psychological safety inside the company and circulated a Gallup survey, a question in that survey stopped me in my tracks - do you have a best friend at work? My immediate reaction was “umm, of course not, why would anyone want that?” But then as I spoke to other leaders in the organization, I understood why this meant a lot to them and why this means a lot to so many people.
And then suddenly, I understood what this meant for me.
Having a friend at work doesn’t mean blurring boundaries, discussing personal lives in too much detail and definitely not about office gossip and “venting”. It means having the freedom to talk to someone about the wins and challenges of your work without judgement. It means developing an equation strong enough to handle disagreements with poise, genuinely being open to feedback from a person you trust and root for each others’ victories wholeheartedly. It means having each other's backs during the tough times. And that's what you expect from a friend outside of work as well, right?
Do you have a best friend at work? How important is having one, for you? Please tell me more in the comments section!
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